I’m a trailing wife too and wasn’t exactly thrilled about moving to the other side of the world ( Canada) from New Zealand.
That was 27 years ago and now I wouldn’t go back home to live.
We had a pact: for the first year to not see the differences as problems but experience them and embrace them as part of the challenge of change. It saved my sanity. Finding like-minded friends is also key.
After that initial year we sat down together and discussed the good versus the bad and collectively decided to give it another year.

An interesting read. I’m not sure what your abbreviation H1-Bs was though?